What’s A Mother to do!


It’s been on Facebook, in the news, Twitter, and  radio talk shows. The mother chastising her son for participating in the riots. I have heard so many views on this. Though I may not agree with publicly shaming your child , this maybe my exception. As a black mother, I will do anything to keep my  child safe. So for me, if that meant I had to get him out of the street, and out of harms way, I like this mother may do it in an extreme way. Young men, do not always make the wisest decisions, just as you or I have not always made the wisest decisions in our lives.It sometimes takes a series of bad choices, for us to finally wake up and start making wiser choices. Unfortunately, for many young black men, their one bad choice can be fatal.

   So every now and then as a mother, grandmother, sister, and aunt, I have to stop writing fashion blogs, and self improvement blogs, to blogging about the pain in my heart. It’s the pain I share with every mother of a black child. Our men children, our future, they are not useless commodities, they are sons, brothers, husbands, and fathers. Each of us must use our voice in some way to say, ” Their lives matter”. We love them, we want to see them live long full lives, with their grandchildren around them. We do not want to see them lying dead in the streets. Stop the madness, police need sensitivity training,  with every life that is taken by a policeman, their should be a trial. A fair trial, and the victim, should not be on trial,  but the person who committed the murder.There should be public evidence for all to see. Young people are angry , because they feel frustrated, as if their lives mean nothing. Police Departments, have to accept responsibility for their relationship with the communities they serve. The riots are usually  a direct result of the frustration people feel about the way they are treated.  We all have to play our part in stopping the violence, by becoming aware, speaking against  violence.

standing for what is right, and teaching our children how to react to policemen. We have to teach our children to be wise in their choices. Our children must count the cost for each decision they make. They are being judged and convicted for the way they speak, dress, and live. It is a shame, that it has come to this but, it is so real. As a mother I am not above, pulling my son, grandson, nephew, cousin off the street if I thought  it would save his life! So before you judge this mom, either way, consider her fear and her plight. What would you do to keep your child safe?

It is not the most pleasant scene, not the best way to handle the situation, but I understand her frustration. The solution is teaching and grooming our sons before they get to this point. It’s educating them on how our forefathers demonstrated and protested. They won the right for us to sit at any restaurant, vote, be educated, and to be treated as men and women.The tragedy is that everyday we must continue the same fight. But not by vandalism, but by wise collective organization, and boycotting of a cities financial streams. It takes, organization, strategies, and leadership that has foresight. It is our responsibility to groom our young men, to keep them safe in the streets, but most of all to keep them alive. 


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