Says Who                                                  

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Says who, I know it’s a funny name for a blog. However, it is just how I am feeling now. I believe I am not the only one feeling this way. When I was a kid, sometimes my brother and I would have our arguments, and I always felt I had won the argument, whatever it was, if I ended with, says who. It was and is still my way of saying, who made the rules, why do I have to follow them. I can ask questions about the rules, and throw them away if they are just not working for my life. The laws, of not killing, stealing, or hurting myself or another are not to be broken. We must followed them out of respect to ourselves and mankind. The rules I am talking about are society’s guidelines. Such as your too old to say or do something, your too fat, or skinny. You have to look or act this way to be accepted.

My response to that is, says who? Who says I have to dress, and look like an old maid at 55, why can’t I take what I have, and be vivacous, lively and sexy. Yes, 55 and sexy, Christian, married, and living. Who says, I have to be invisible? Why can’t I have multiple talents and gifts, and use all of them to the best of my ability, and offer those talents to serve others. Who says as a women, I should make less than a man, if we do the same job. Who says, because I am a black mother that I can’t be concerned about our young men, and talk about their safety when interacting with police? Who says I can’t talk about both of those things in the same blog. My interest vary, from fashion to politics.I like art, I have a spiritual practice,and I enjoy music. These are my interest, why should I find one niche, that suits a certain kind of people. I am a whole person with varied interest. In this blog, I write about those interest.

Who says, you have to fit in a niche, your a whole person, with various talents and gifts, just as I am. Speak your truth, live your life, get involve with what makes you passionate. When people are wronged, don’t just silently sit by, lift your voice to say this is wrong. Says who, that we have to go along to get along? Ask questions, seek answers, go for what you want, and still be kind, compassionate, and giving. Live, love, be!  Says who, that we can’t live our lives to the fullest. Says who?  Or is that you, telling yourself, you can’t do this or that. Is it you limiting yourself? Says who? Yes I can, and so can you.

                                                 Owning Your Mistakes And Moving On

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       Part of being a responsible adult is knowing that you will make mistakes in this game called life. For some of us the difficulty comes from taking responsibility for those mistakes. Taking responsibility for your mistakes is a true sign of maturity. It  means that you recognized you made a mistake, you have taken responsibility for the consequences, and finally you can learned from your mistakes. Some of our most powerful life lesson come from mistakes we have made. We do ourselves a huge disservice, if we cannot take the time to sit quietly, evaluate the error, and then ask ourselves or others, how could I have handled this differently? Finding the answer to that kind of question ignites creativity,and self awareness.

         Past mistakes and failures can cause us to live in regret, unforgiveness, and bitterness. Moving past your mistakes, learning from them, and then improving, and transforming yourself is an art form. You may ask, exactly, how do you, do that?  Here are five steps to overcoming past mistakes, and moving forward.

          1. Take the time to evaluate the mistake, as stated earlier ask yourself those important questions, such as have I done this before; is this a pattern, and how can I do this differently? Take the time to get the answers, write in a journal,or seek professional help, but answer these questions before moving forward.

          2. Own the mistake, that means apologize to anyone you may have hurt in the process.Confess, the mistake to yourself and any other person involved. Take personal responsibility for your actions. Accept your part in the process and how your part affected yourself and others.

          3. Forgive, this a big piece in the process. Forgive yourself first, for your actions. Forgive, others if they were involve. Remember the process, of forgiving fosters your personal growth. Forgiveness, is a gift you must unwrap to recieve. It is mostly for you, it allows you to take the next step to your personal growth. Forgiveness, allows you to remove the shackles of your past, freeing you to move forward.

          4. Release it, let it go. Don’t hold on to the story, don’t hold onto your past. You may even have to change some situations, places or people, in order to release the mistake. All will be well, some of our biggest mistakes were actually signs that we had grown past places, people, or things. This is the time to release the baggage and move forward. You may have to write it out, talk it out, pray it out, but you have to release the mistake, to move on.

           5. Move forward, just as seasons change, life keeps moving forward, and so must you. Go ahead take the step, meet the next day with your head held high knowing you have done all you could. After you done all you can do,move forward. You have to move forward to walk through your breakthrough!

Life is all about growth, and motion, you live, you learn, and you keep moving forward to new horizons. It is all a part of being powerfully you.  

 

                                                 Being A Fashionably Mature Woman

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    As I check out fashion blogs, and go through you tube videos on fashion and beauty, which is a calming hobby for me. I don’t see me represented. I am a mature plus size woman, accepting of my curves, thighs, and all rounded parts of me. I’ve learned to love the skin I am in. I celebrate all women, I think we each possess our own special beauty.

  However, I want to see more people like me represented, mature and plus size. I don’t have to have the latest designer bag, or designer label on my clothes. I just want to look good in reasonably priced clothes. I don’t like old lady chlothes either, I am lively and vivacious, so I like to express my self in my clothing. I like statement pieces, bold jewelry, artsy and unusual. I don’t have to be drab. So here I am fashion industry, someone who is quite the challenge. I know I am not the only one. I might be gracefully passing through the years, but I chose to do it with style, and a splash of color! 

  Being you, powerfully is my style, and encouraging women to do the same. Who said you have to look like an old lady, and why can’t I encourage women that aging is beautiful. Your wiser, you know what you want, you know what you like, and life has taught you many lesson. So here I am world, aging beautifully, and I won’t go to the shadows. Aging is sexy too, it’s all in how you choose to do it!