Loving Accepting You

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  The old adage, ” If you don’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else, definitely has a measure of truth. Accepting and loving ourselves, is essential because; in the process of loving yourself, you make the choice to care for self. You accept your weakness, frailties, as well as your strengths, and everything about yourself. As you love yourself, you attract those who will and do love you like a magnet. You no longer accept disrespect and ill-regard from others. You take care of yourself, mentally, physically, and spiritually. You really hold yourself in high regard.

   This is not egotistical or selfish, it’s beneficial for your interaction in the world. It teaches others how to treat you. Loving yourself , is key in relationships, it mirrors to others how you expect to be treated. It is vital to respect and accept ourselves, to set the standard of how we expect to be treated by others. If you love yourself you will not beg, or demean yourself in any way,in order to win someone’s love. Your mate will see, you are confident, warm, and intelligent by the way you dress, act, and interact with others. Loving yourself sets the tone for all relationship. It displays, “I treat myself with dignity and kindness and I expect nothing less fom anyone else.”

    The aspect of accepting yourself, just as you are, at this moment, maybe more difficult for some. Accepting yourself, does not mean, that their are not areas that you could improve on. It’s just exclaiming I accept myself fully and completely. Whether I am thin, full sized, short, tall, straight or gay. I am fearfully, and wonderfully made, as stated in the bible.  It portrays to the world, I love all of me, every inch, from my full hips, or thin lips, their mine, and they are beautiful. Accepting yourself is  celebrating your accomplishments, not playing small, and standing in your own truth. It’s owning who you are. Owning the good and not so good, and encouraging  others to accept themselves as well. It’s being perfectly, imperfect, a term I heard some time ago and loved it. I see myself that way, perfectly imperfect. I take all of who I am, and grow, and glow with it. I so invite you to do the same.

                                  Linda’s loving and living life

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To live your life fully, you must take the moment of now, to enjoy your life now, at this moment. You may not have everything you want, it’s about not living in the future, or the present, but now. As I look at my life now, I am so grateful,  I don’t have everything I desire, but I truly have everything I need. My children are grown, I have a loving husband, my daughters have grown into beautiful young women. I am at a good place in my career. I enjoy the richness of my life, though it is simple it’s my life, and I am enjoying it. 

  I made some career choices, some choices in love and family, the type of choices; that helped me to find balance and harmony in my life. That has become so important to me now, I no longer feel the need to be more successful in my career, to wear designer chlothes, or to keep up with any one else. I find that I am content,and successful,now that I have scaled down to those things that bring me true joy. The more I scaled down, and simplified, the happier I became. Starting with work,  I decided to work the least amount of hours that I could in order to contribute, and make money. I am pursing my entrepneural spirit, attempting to work less for someone else and more for me. I have simplified my closet,  I find the items that I love to wear that are comfortable, and make me feel good is what I wear. My relationships, are built on those who love me and who I love, mutually we make deposits in each other’s life, we don’t drain each other. There were choices I had to make to come to this point, some things, jobs, and people I had to let go of. There were also those quiet moments where I reflected, and made the initial decisions of what was really important to me. Finally, I had to set some boundaries, and take a stand for what it was that was important to me. I prayed, sometimes cried, but I thank God and am so grateful for this moment, today! I am living, loving, and enjoying my life now. It has taken half a century to get here, but that doesn’t matter. I am here, now living my life by design, successful in my own right. Successful, by my own standards, you can do it too. Live the life you design, defining success in your own terms. What would your life look like, if you would, knowing you could? 

Loving this picture, maxi dresses are a full figured woman’s dream, threw them on and go. There easy, breezy, and free, like me.

 

Older, But Still Growing Up

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I must say one of the great side benefits of getting older is wisdom. Trust me, there are so many things I could complain about getting older, aches and pains. The strange sounds from your joints, the few extra pounds around the middle area. Annoying as these things are, there is a peace and a wisdom that I have obtained. It’s freeing, invigorating, you reach a point where you no longer care about what others think of you. The price is to great, not to speak your truth. Your comfortable in your own skin, even if there maybe some sagging in that skin. You have to laugh about it, but you also have to look at aging as this great gift from God. My children are grown, no longer dependent on me for everything, even my relationship with my children has matured. I now see my daughters as two beautiful young women, who are bright, beautiful,creative, and able to make their own choices and decisions without me. They respect my opinion, sometimes., and they ask me if they need advise. Though,our opinion may differ I have to honor their choices, and trust their own inner guidance. Just as I trust God’s voice in me,that moves me along life’s journey. God directs me with those whispers, that have directed my path over the years.We all have the spirit of God inside us that whispers guidance, and shows us the way when we are lost, we just have to be quiet to hear the “God Whispers” I call them.

 Still, the beauty of aging is the confidence and wisdom I have obtained over the years. It’s knowing that, come what may, I will be alright. Life has taught me that,  and my mistakes, brought with them a great treasure, wisdom. With each mistake and setback, I found something glorious about me, I am resilient, I bounce back. I have done it so many times, that I know in the depths of my being, that I will do it again. I know God will show me the way, I won’t get lost, I will find my way through this maze of life. God has got my back! I also know I don’t have to follow the rules with aging I don’t have to be the dreary old lady. I am the sassy, happy, sexy,spicy, mature woman, I often admired when I was younger. I always admired the older women who still dressed nice, who were courageous and different. Who, knew who they were, and made no apologies for it. We all have known someone like that, a friend or aunt who has aged well, and is her own person. Well, I have become her. I wear fashions that suit my style, not grandmas clothes, I still have plenty of the world to see, and I plan on doing just that. I have friends from all age groups, and they are treasures that teach me to appreciate life. The numbers of my age are going up but I feel young and vibrant. Age is just a number. When the aches and pains try to remind me of the numbers, I move, dance, and wink, because I am still alive. I am still standing, moving, breathing, loving, and living. Such are the things of a life well lived, and the beauty of wisdom.