Building Positive Relationships


When people discuss building positive relationships, a romantic relationships is usually what comes to mind. However, healthy relationships, are important aspects in your career, your family life, spiritual life, friendships, and your romantic life. The saying, no man is an island, is a good reference point for relationship building. Relationships, are important to our physical, spiritual, and mental well being. Many people suffer from loneliness and depression, because they lack the skills to maintain beneficial relationships in their lives.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you, the golden rule is a wise rule, and foundational in relationship building. Treat others the way you want to be treated. This begins with, honesty, integrity, love, compassion, trust, and openness. Respecting those you want to build relationships’ with is essential. Essentially, we should all follow the golden rule.
Next, being consistent in your relationships with others. Meaning and doing what you said you would do. It even means being honest and saying I am not going to be able to do that. Overall, being consistent or true to yourself and your values, as well as to others. It’s keeping up with promises, appointments , and engagements, or notifying others when you can’t meet obligations in a timely manner. It’s also making the effort and taking the time to build your relationship’s by spending time with friends, lovers, and those you want in your network, or your village.

Realizing that there is your inner circle, which consist of people like, your spouse, close friends, and mentors. Your inner circle should consist of  people you absolutely trust, people who have proven themselves through the years.  Your outer circle, consist of acquaintances, coworkers, friends, and people that you have a joint connection with through social obligations. You may or may not want to go any further with these relationships, but you both have a vested interested to stay connected. Lastly, it’s your global community, this maybe your internet buddies, groups with causes, your spiritual community, these are like-minded individuals connected for service to our global community. We support their causes by participating in activities with our physical or financial help. Essentially, we all need each other to meet our needs and the needs of others.

I would also like to discuss the importance of our spiritual relationship. God is our source, we need Him, like air. Our relationship with God is nurtured when we spend time with him, and take the time to listen. His still small voice within you, is the answer to those difficult life  questions, and fills the void in our lives. A relationship with God is like a life river, feeding the streams to other healthy relationships in our lives.
Building positive relationships in our lives, requires time, energy, respect, love, consistency, and compassion. However, the lasting benefits of positive relationships can be like an everlasting fountain of joy that sustains your life.

Linda McDowell, Holistic Life Coach



Radical Grace


Grace is often defined as the unmerited favor of God towards us. Unmerited, also meaning undeserving. God’s grace is directly related to his love for us. His love, is freeing, forgiving, lavishing, and therefore He provides grace towards us in proportion to his love for us. His love sees past our weakness, he sees us in his perfected view of us. My question to myself and others, is why don’ t we practice more grace toward ourselves, and those we love? I know we cannot give the grace that God provides to ourselves and others, we simply don’t have the capacity to do that.
However, if we even tried to offer a measure of grace to ourselves, and others, if we practiced loving others beyond there faults, and offenses, it would make a radical shift in the world. Often we are harder on ourselves than others. If the creator of the universe can offer you, grace as a gift, then surely you can cut yourself a break. I believe our mistakes and shortcoming are an awesome opportunity for our growth and development. When you look, and reflect on past mistakes and poor choices; it is an opportunity to forgive yourself, learn, and move forward. God’s grace sets the stage for forward motion in our lives it pushes us forward, beyond our failures, and past mistakes. We become stagnant when we are unforgiving and live in our past. It is a choice to move forward, to forgive, and to see an offense or a mistake as a opportunity to grow or learn.
The bible states, “For it is by grace you have been saved,through faith, and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” (Ephesians 2: 8-10).
So grace is this free gift that God bestows on us so graciously, it is a gift that we should practice for ourselves and others. It’s a radical gift, but it multiplies in the blessings of love, compassion, and resiliency.


Realizing your dreams


The older I get, I realize how my dreams have changed, some have come to pass, and others have not manifested. The ones that became a reality for me were the ones I choose to focus on,and make them happen. They were the dreams that I made a conscious decision, that they were going to be my reality, then I took a series of steps in faith. Before a dream can manifest a decision will have to be made, and then a series of steps in blind faith, trusting that what you desire will manifest.For the purpose of this Blog, I am referring to the dreams, that are your deepest desires. Sometimes, in life we give up on our dreams, settle, and cope with the reality of everyday. The questions to ask yourself when you become stagnant are,”How, can I accomplish my dreams, what is holding me back, what are the physical, emotional, and spiritual cost, and am I ready to pay the price? Finally, what would life be like if my dream never manifested?
The secret to realizing your dreams is faith, and action. Faith, that you can take the first step, whatever that is, no matter how big or small. In reality, dreams are nothing more than hopes for the future. If you want your dreams to become a reality then the nest step is to alchemize your dream into a goal. By alchemize, to bring some mental changes together; in order to change your mind set and focus on manifesting the dream and making it a commitment. A dream becomes a goal when you commit to reaching it in a certain time frame. (Christian Life Coaching). I suggest breaking down your goals into bite size chunks, and taking the action steps with specific time frames, in mind. Also, take a look at the emotional components that are roadblocks to your dreams. Things like, procrastination,fear, laziness,how are these components keeping you from your dreams. Then comes the decision and commitment to yourself to go for what you want, to do, even when you don’t feel like doing. Having someone you trust to hold you accountable is helpful, this is where life coaches, and mentors can be useful resources.Prayer, trusting in God, doing the work ,and dedication are the nuts and bolts of achieving your dreams.
There are some dreams, that are just that, just dreams, you are the deciding force, on what you want to accomplish. Dreams are the igniting force for passion,they are guide post for the future. The question I leave you with is, how bad do you want it?