There Is A Peace In Contentment and Simplicity

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When I was in my twenty’s I longed for the designer clothes, the big promotion, the best car, the ideal life or so I thought. However, as life progressed, I became a mother, a wife, worked hard in my career, took care of my family, and went to bed at night absolutely spent. As I chased the so called American dream, it seemed at times to get further and further away from me. It seemed the harder I worked the more I needed to work to keep the things, and they were just that, things I wanted. In the mean time, as I continued to chase things, in my life I found myself two divorces later and a single mom, who had some things, but not many relationships. It was in the time of loss of valuable relationships, that I gained the most important insights, and grew the most.
I finally learned that to amass fortune, or things, and not to have those you love most in your life is a futile effort. Things get broken, need repair, go out of style; and there is something better, bigger, and brighter just around the corner. When you get in that cycle of chasing things, you become like a dog chasing his tail, there is no end in sight. The sound of your child’s laughter, to have the man you love, hold you under the moonlight, to share a fantastic meal with friends; allowing the sound of laughter and love spring from the walls of your home is a great blessing, and priceless. The stability of knowing when you open the door to your home, there is someone who just can’t wait to see you, priceless. To hear your child say, your my friend and my parent, and for her to know that both roles are important for her growth, priceless. Some of the best things in life, are priceless, and better than the largest diamond on the earth. So just remember the latest designer purse has nothing over the a ice cream kiss and smile of your two year old.

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Who’s Going on

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I look around the world, and sadly think to myself, what is going on?
Who turned the lights out , and left a so many in the dark?
Walking around in a stupor
Wake up, get up, open your eyes, can’t you see,the world is turning,
changing, yet staying the same,
I woke up this morning feeling like I went back in time, to the sixties,
Black people marching, babies dying, mama’s crying, policeman standing, straining for answers, to justify cause for killing and restraining
Am I dreaming, is this real, I wipe my eyes, only to realize
It’s 2014, though things change everything stays the same, we have to keep marching, keep speaking, keep challenging, keep correcting ,cause
After the moment of change, comes complacency,
What’s going on?
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What should We Teach Our Young Men When It Comes To The Police?

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As I listen to the news it saddens me every time I hear another young black man has been murdered by the police. I think about when our children are young we teach them to respect authorities, police, etc. I taught my children when they were young that they could go to a police officer if they were lost or needed help. Now, I question what I have taught my children, and I wonder is it safe for a black male to approach the police. What’s going on, in the famous words of Marvin Gaye. Can I no longer teach my sons that the police are safe. Now must I teach them to avoid the police at all cost, that the police may see you as a target. I sense the fear of parents of young black men. Can our sons be safe in the streets. Can they not dress and speak as we did, to their individual taste and not be seen as a thug.
I am so concerned of the state of black men in America. Are Americans so afraid of black men that anything they do is a reason to shoot them. As a mother, grandmother, sister, and aunt, I shout from the top of my lungs. Stop the killing, and the madness. I demand that police get education on how to avoid cultural biases. That they are taught to ask questions before they shoot. When a man lifts his hands in surrender, with no gun in sight, that this is not the time to shoot. When police kill innocent people they should be held accountable. It should be public record when police kill.
Through it all, we have to respect the law, I will teach my sons to be men, to refuse to live in fear. To respect others, mostly to respect yourself. It is detrimental to our young men’s health to act like a thug. Be who you are, live your life, expecting and knowing that you are a child of God, your birthright is freedom, justice and equality. I will pray for your safety, for your growth both mentally, physically, and spiritually. I will demand justice for you, I will use my voice to keep you safe. I only ask as a mother, grandmother, sister, and aunt; that you not kill your own, and you stand strong for equality of all just as your ancestors did.IMG_0472-0.JPG

Quit Playing Small and Walk In Your Greatness

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As I thought about this topic I remembered a conversation I had with a very dear friend. We were thinking back to all the times we had played small. I remembered saying to her that I had played small so many times in my life, that I had to make a conscious effort to honor my accomplishments. I have worked and made some significant improvements in this area, but I have to be aware of my tendency to “play small.” What do I mean by playing small. It is those little incidents, where you do not acknowledge your accomplishments, and how hard you worked to accomplish them. An example, may be when you, perhaps let a colleague get all the praise on a project that you basically did all the research and work to complete. However, she/he presented it, owned and got the recognition. Owning your accomplishments, is not arrogance; it is respecting yourself for a job well done. Owning your accomplishments, is not overshadowing anyone else; it is standing comfortably in who you are,and encouraging others to do the same.
When we play small we are not doing ourselves or anyone else a favor. It is a false humility, that causes us to devalue ourselves and others. Playing small is devaluing yourself to make someone else feel good. When you really examine playing small, it is a very egotistical trait. Your really saying to someone, you cannot handle my accomplishments so I will just meet you at your level. When you bring all of yourself to the table, you are encouraging others to do likewise; therefor everyone is coming into the relationship as equals. When we walk in the fullness of our divinity, our life becomes a praise of gratitude to our Creator. God knew us before he formed us in our mothers womb,we are all set apart for specific task and functions. We are set apart and and internally blessed with a measure of greatness to do what we are place on the earth to do. When we cannot find value and worth in ourselves we set the stage for others to devalue us. God has blessed me with many gifts and talents, some I have not even tapped into. He has also blessed you with talents, and gifts that the world needs. The use of our talents and gifts is a way of allowing God to use you in service to humanity.
When you walk in your greatness, you set the stage and make room for everyone, to own their greatness. God smiles, because his earth mission is on progress.

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