Taking Care of You Is AN Important Aspect of Achieving Your Goals

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In your journey of going for your destiny,  one of the most important aspects is taking care of ourselves. This is achieved by living a healthy lifestyle. Obviously, if we do not take good care of ourselves, we may not accomplish all that we desire. So our journey has to include self care. Self care, is care of our total being, mind, body, and spirit. It includes, our physical, mental, and spiritual health. When we take the time to nourish, and care for our mind, body, and spirit, we are revived and able to flourish.

It is so difficult to give from an empty vessel, and in today’s society, you can become drained quickly. Our world is so fast paced, and we often have to multitask in order to get things done. If you have a career, family obligations, societal obligations, your schedule can quickly become a source of anxiety and stress. You can also become exhausted and drained very quickly. It is essential to our physical and mental health that we take time to care for ourselves. Our vessel, our body, has to be nourished, replenished, excercised, and encouraged to move and flow. Slowing down, eating healthy foods, enjoying the moment, laughter, love, fresh air, sunshine, water, crying, holding the one you love close to your heart; are all essential elements for our health and wellbeing. Another key element of our well being, is enjoying and developing our creative side. Write, draw, think, dream, listen to music, create something, be it big or small, for all of this nourishes our soul. This allows us to fill our divine vessels, so that we can give and be of service to others. Self care is not just some cliche, it it an essential component for life.

Taking 15 minutes -1 hour a day for yourself, is important. Even if you have to take time for yourself in small increments. It is crucial that you take this time. Use the time to breathe, to enjoy nature, to laugh, or just to get away for a moment. Schedule breaks during your work day. Take the time to go outside on a sunny day, or a walk in the park for lunch. Your me time is important. Don’t let You,  be the last person on your list that get’s attention and care.

So while your are on your journey to achieving your goals, and dreams, don’t forget that YOU, are an essential element of achieving your desires. Therefore, all along the process, take care of YOU! Self care is not just a notion. It is essential component of your  life force.

                                      Aging in the Work Place

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I have been actively working since I was 18 years old, and in those year, I have transitioned from the bright eyed newbie to sometimes the oldest worker for an organization.  It is sometimes a diffiuclt transition, not the number of years you have been at an organization, but sometimes being one of the oldest employees at an organization. I sometimes get the feeling that companies are not always valuing the experience, wisdom, and focus, of an employee that is seasoned. I also have gathered, that as an older employees we, don’t always realized our own value, and the gift we bring to any company. I think sometimes companies may feel that our ideas are antiquated, that we may cost them more than we deliver, and I beg to differ.

First of all, as a seasoned employee, we have to know our own value. You have to be confident in all that you bring to the table for your company. You have skills, wisdom, ideas, that can be a benefit to any company. You have to have confidence in those skills. It is also crucial that we keep up to date in our skill sets, staying fresh by taking courses, attending workshops etc, in our areas of expertise, reading article, and keeping abreast of trends, and changes in our industries. Also, we need to be open to the idea of branching out and trying new things, and new ways of doing things. We also need to watch our attitudes, stay positive, be a team player, that is not afraid of change. Companies, are changing and looking for better ways to get the job done, and we need to stay open and be abreast of changes that are happening in your industry. Be willing to help, act as a mentor to younger employees, find ways to show your intrinsic value to the company that employs you. I am not suggesting that you change as a person, but it is critical that you be of value to your company and stay up to date in your industry. Even in the way you dress, and interact with your colleagues. Do you call yourself old, and are you still dressing like your in the 70’s. If so update your wardrobe, and don’t date your self physically or mentally. We are vibrant, and we are assets to any company that we serve. Interact, and connect with your younger coworkers, and younger friends and associates. These friendships can prove to be beneficial to your life. When you discuss and interact with younger people; you will find they have interesting views on life, career, and personal time. We may not always agree but it is great to exchange ideas.

Now lets look at employers, the bottom line is that ageism is against the law. Though companies are careful not to portray that they would discrimate against anyone because of age. There are often suttle ways that ageism creeps into companies. It is usually not the company as a whole, but individuals in the company that may feel that older employee just can’t produce the same as a younger employee. This is simply, is not true, older employee are aware, of how people feel about their age, and often go beyond what is expected of them to produce results for their company.  As an older employee it is crucial for you to be results oriented, not to the point that you loose your people skills. However, to the point that you have a balance of producing results, and connecting and communicating with people well. We are here, and we are not going anywhere until we choose to retire. The employee, and the employer have to work together, to make sure the work place allows every individual to thrive, regardless of age. The best way to fight against ageism is to be a productive, contributing member of society until you choose to slow down and retire. The key here is that you don’t allow anyone to make that choice for you, you make the choice.

Lastly, as older people in the workplace, we cannot overlook the possibility of starting our own businesses,, transitioning from employee to employer ourselves. This way we can empower, and employ others, that may have some of the difficulties we have experienced. I believe, we as the aging employee have to define ourselves, break away from the stereotypes, be aware, and willing to educate others, on the value you can offer to any organization.

                   From Thought to Manifestation, and the steps along the way!

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First a thought rises up in your consciousness, sometimes starting with a question from deep inside your being. Then an idea raises up to the forefront of your mind. If we take the time to think about it, ideas, are precious gifts form our subconscious mind.  Positive, life changing ideas, thoughts or questions, transform into answers that are beneficial to ourselves and others.

  So let’s study how an idea comes to us. First there maybe a need, or a question that you need an answer to. You think about it for a while, and then you make a decision to do something. You then take action steps toward your desired outcome. The wise, ask God for help sometime during this process. Thoughts or or ideas do not come from nowhere, they are downloaded revelations from our Creator. Lofty ideas, or thoughts can be of great benefit to you and others on the planet. They come from the originator of all thoughts and ideas, God. He has chosen to download this great service to you, as a vessel, to help yourself and others. We must act on ideas, that are good, and bring a service that is compassionate and helpful to others. It is true that we also have negative, egotistical thoughts and ideas, and these we must not act upon, but release them into nothingness. 

First thing is to take time to think, to be, and to meditate. Pray for answers. When you need to come up with something different for your life, or an original idea, you must take time to listen. Listen to the spirit of God inside you, listen intently, expectantly, knowing that an answer will come, because answers will come eventually.

Then it happens, an answer has comes from deep within yourself, an idea presents itself, now what? See the idea, feel it, write it down, in a sequential manner. The Bible says in. Habukak 2:2

“Write the vision and make it plain on tablets,

That he may run who reads it.

3 For the vision is yet for an appointed time;

But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie.

Though it tarries, wait for it;

Because it will surely come,

It will not tarry.”

There is a lot of wisdom in this scripture, it is important to write your ideas or your vision, and to realized that it maybe for an appointed time in your future.  Though it may seem to take a long time, it will come to pass. You must continue on the process of manifestation. This is the process of seeing your vision or idea before it manifest.  This is an important step in the process.

Next, take the necessary steps, whether big or small. Take a step towards your idea, one step at time, knowing that in time your idea will come to pass.

Commit to the process. Come what may be committed to see your idea come to pass, factor in some mishaps or mistake along the way.  Particularly when you are doing something that has never been done before. Stay the path, your idea, is your baby. Be careful who you share your ideas with, protect your idea. Also do not procrastinate. Procrastination is a dream killer. Set timelines for yourself, but keep taking the necessary steps. 

Finally manifestation will come, as I stated before, if you keep at it, your idea will manifest. Work on it a step at a time, intently, expectantly, and the ideas from your mind will manifest. Celebrate yourself, and the creative process that brought a thought into reality. Isn’t the whole process truly fascinating.

Would you add more steps to the process, if so leave a comment?

              Setting Your Soul Free From Bitterness, and Unforgiveness

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I recently saw a post from the comedienne, and actress Monique, as she talked about Oprah, Lee Daniels, and Tyler Perry. I could tell she had really been hurt, and the resentment from those situations, was still within her being. Though I use her situation, as an example, this post is really not about her. But about all of us. We can let bitterness, and resentment make us stoop to the level of those who supposedly hurt us, if we do not allow ourselves to release these emotions.

Bitterness, and resentment can harbor in your spirit,  and stir up to present itself, as high blood pressure, heart disease, headaches, anger, depression,  indigestion,gastric diseases, back pain, knee pain, and a host of other issues. How is this you may ask? It is because we allow these emotions to settle in our being. These emotions fester and create havoc in our mind, body and spirit. Mostly because we are stuck in the turmoil of a situations that has made us bitter, and resentful. When you are stuck immovable and laden with resentment and anger. These emotion’s settle in your joints making it difficult for you to move them freely.  I know it is very hard to forgive when you feel someone has wronged you, or caused something devastating in your life. You may want them to pay for what they have done to you.  However, let me encourage you to move on, to forgive, and release them to God, for you as well as them.

Easy for you to say,  maybe the reply of some to me. I would then have to respond and say it has taken half a lifetime for me to forgive someone I believed hurt me. But as I was festering in resentment, anger, bitterness, that person was living their life successfully. I was stuck, and my life was on hold, because I could think of nothing else but how to get back at him. For nearly 20 years, I nurtured that bitterness, and resentment, though cancer, heart disease and high blood pressure. All those emotions were trying to explode from within me.  They were seeping and causing turmoil in my body. Meanwhile the other person was going on with life, healthy, happy, and unaware. Who was really the one that was paying the price for this situation, I was. That is, until I woke up and realized that I had to forgive, and let go of all that resentment, because it was eating me alive.

I would say the same thing to Monique, who is talented, funny, and gifted.  Keep moving, keep serving the world with truth, laughter, hope, and do not let the resentment and bitterness clog your creativity. Keep on being your divine higher self, pack light, and release the heavy bags of bitterness, unforgiveness, and hurt. Do it for you, set your soul free!

                                Resurrecting Your Dead Situations

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As I sit in my office and reflect on the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus,  I realized that he took the time to get to himself, to tap into his power source. The ability to resurrect from the dead came from a source of power greater than himself. He took the time to get to himself to tap into his God power, he had to tap into the source of his strength and power, his relationship with his Father. When we rely on our own strength and power there is a limit to the things we can accomplish. However, when we can tap into God’s power and strength, we can tap into unlimited power, potential, and strength. It is a power greater than our own, it is the secret to the unlimited potential within you.

There are times in life when you have done all you can humanly do, there are no more answers, there is nothing left to do. If you have never come to this crossroad in your life. You are lucky, but then I would have to investigate how long have you lived. Because if you live long enough you will encounter situations, people, and things that take all your human strength and something more in order to overcome. They will be crossroads in life, periods in life, when you need an answer, you are blocked,  or you are in a place where you just can’t seem to make a decision. Then there may be times, when you have done your best, all you can do, and things just did not turn out like you wanted them to. You feel lost and defeated, you know you have to move forward, the situation is dead, but you do not have the strength to move.  What do you do in those situations?

You have to go, to a place inside of yourself, a place where you can plug into a source of power, and energy greater than yourself. That place is your relationship with God, if you do not have that relationship, you are missing a link to your greatest potential. This source of power lies in the knowledge that you have access to a power and strength beyond you. You have to take the time to quiet yourself, through prayer. Sometimes, the simple prayer of God help me, or I need you now. These are the only words needed to tap into the strength and power that is greater than your human potential. Luke 23:46 states that just before Jesus took his last breath he said these words, “Father into your hands I commit my spirit.” These words show, that Jesus knew his greatest power and strength was activated when he surrendered to the power and strength beyond his human potential, the Resurrecting power of his Father. So when you find yourself in dead situations, surrender to the power greater than your human potential the power of God in you.

The Missing Girls and DC, Six Tips For Parents To Make Their Child Safer

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I have heard a lot about the missing girls in the DC area. The Washington DC police department is saying that there is not an actual increase in the numbers of missing girls, but that through the police’s use of social media, especially through tweets they brought more awareness to the issue of missing young women. The numbers fluctuate with the last being 25 teens in the last month. I have also read that the D.C. Mayor has created a task force and other initiative to find the missing girls. I will have to applaud social media and the outcry of others for bringing more awareness to this issue. As I ponder over this issue there are some questions that come up for me, such as:

If these young girls are runaways, what is happening in their home environments?

Where are these young women’s parents in all of this?

Are we as the public being told the truth, it seems it may be more to the story?

I don’t believe they are all runaways, but what is happening to our young girls?

Either way this is an alarming story, and has shed light on the issue of missing children. My children are all grown, but my heart strings are  pulled for these young women and their families. Obviously, as I look at this situation, I see that the most vulnerable, are those that don’t seem to have family connections, or their parents may not know their whereabouts. Then there are those of lower economic groups, and certainly young women of color. While there is a lot of social issues attached to either of those thoughts. It all boils down to, how can we as parents, keep our children safe? I don’t have all the answers, but listed below are a few common sense approaches, I always used with my girls, who all have grown up to be awesome young women. In their teenage years we had our share of disagreements, and struggles, as any honest parent of teenagers will admit, but I think these ground rules helped me.

1. Know where your children are- Keep up with there schedules, there friends, and their friends families. Make an effort to meet their friends and the families of their friends. Do not let your children spend the night with any and everybody. Remember you are the parent, and ultimately you are responsible for their safety.

2. Keep up with their internet activity- You pay the bills, so you can check their phones, computers, etc whenever you like. Put any safeware protection etc, block certain things, and do what you need to do, to ensure your child’s safety.

3. Drive your children where they need to go, or make sure they are with other responsible adults that you absolutely trust. There are to many, unattended children on the bus etc. I know that there are times when you may work, or some parents do not have a car, this can be difficult. However, if they must travel on public transportation, try to get them in large groups. Ensure your child has a cell phone to be able to contact you, especially in emergencies if needed.

4. Create a safe and loving home enviroment, where your children feel loved and safe. Even if there are disagreements in the home, if children feel safe and loved they will come home. Be the person your children come to, for support, wisdom, and love.

5. Make sure, that even when they travel in groups to the mall etc, that you pick them up and drop them off. Make sure you arrive and pick them up promptly, at the agreed upon spot. If they are late, find out what is going on, investigate, get out of the car, and look for them.

6. In the unfortunate incident, that your child comes up missing, contact the police, neighbors, and friends. Form search parties, talk, use social media, posters,  use whatever or whomever you need to get the message out. Ask for help from others in searching for your child.

7. It takes a village to raise a child, we are all members of the village. Know your neighbors, ask for help and help them by reporting anything or anyone that is suspect. Protect all the children in your neighborhood, by looking or checking on them. If you see children in your neighborhood out playing, even if they are not your children, check on them periodically. Start neighbor hood watch programs. But enlist the help of your neighbors that you trust, and know. We are each other’s keeper. It is not about being nosy, it is about keeping our children safe.

These are just a few items. I thought of , do you have others, add them to the comment section.

Maintaining Joy, Finding Those Moments of Joy Throughout Your Day

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Joy, “A feeling of great pleasure and success” this is the dictionary meaning. I believe throughout the day we can experience pockets of joy. Brief moments in our lives that bring us great pleasure. Joy, and the experience of sheer joy is sometimes a choice, and other times, these blissful moments just unfold. I suggest looking for these moments, as if you were going on a treasure hunt. This makes you excited, and able to savor and carve out these precious moments everyday. We have these moments in our lives everyday, we often just let them slip by without noticing them. It’s the moment of enjoying the smell of coffee in the morning hours, a quiet moment by yourself snuggling up to a fire and reading a great book. It maybe snuggling in your lovers arms, and feeling the warmth of your love. It could be making a snowman with your six year old and enjoying life through the eyes of a six year old. All are these moments are pockets of joy ,that often become treasured memories of a life time.

I say treasure these moments, look for them, and don’t let them slip by. Often we are too busy with mundane task, and we let these valuable moments pass us by. Take the time to stop, recognize, and enjoy these pockets of blissful joy in your life.  Here are some tips to find pockets of joy everyday:

1. On those very busy days with deadlines, and task coming to you from every direction. Stop for a moment breathe, take a coffee or tea break for 10 minutes, smell the coffee, feel the warmth of the hot brew in your hands, find a spot where you can look out a window, and daydream for 10 minutes. Claim those 10 minutes as yours, and enjoy!

2.On those very busy days when you are trying to complete chores around the house, and your children are laughing at something else in the other room. Take a moment to enjoy their laughter, find out what is so funny, the best times are created when you take the time to join them. Before you know it, you have created another pocket of joy, simply by capturing the moment.

3. Your on one side of the couch, your husband or significant other is on the other side, and you are  looking at a movie. Slide up close and capture the moment to plant a big kiss or just snuggle. Both of you will find joy knowing that you have each other, and its’s a moment to say I love you without words.

4. If your parents are still living, which is a blessing in its self, send them a silly picture of you or you and your family, and follow it with a call telling them you were thinking of them.

5. Make a date for lunch, brunch, or just coffe with a dear friend to catch up or share memories, laugh and enjoy.

These are just a few, that came to me, be creative, capture, savor, and find your own pockets of joy. Take the time to savor each of those moments, by using all your senses to truly find joy in everyday life. Finding joy in your life, is the definition of success.